Sexcellent | Issue 12

Sexcellent | Issue 12

Slip, slop, strap

Dear S,

My partner wants us to try using a strap-on (we’re both females) and I’ve never done it before, so I’m not sure how they work or anything. Is it comfortable? I heard there are ones that you can use without straps as well but I’m completely confused.

- Ellen

Hey ladies,

So glad you two are exploring your sexuality in new and exciting ways - after all, what are our uni years but a giant cesspit of sexual experimentation anyway?! Luckily for you, the ’90s are over and there are far more superior strap-on options available to the discerning lesbian or pegger. 

You can buy cheaper sets which will have a strap permanently affixed to a dong/dildo, which many people will buy and then regret, as they are often made from terrible material and don’t sit right - so try to avoid getting this kind of setup if possible. A popular option is what’s known as a “strapless strap-on”, which kind of looks like a tick sign - it has a shorter part which you would insert, and is supposed to nestle in against the clit and g-spot, providing stimulation for you (as well as whoever you’re rogering with the larger part, of course). In my experience, this is kind of an annoying toy because you generally will have to hold it at the base of the shaft to ensure that it moves the way you want it to - but some people swear by these, so it really is up to the individual! Part of the fun of the whole sex toy game is that you get to try heaps of different stuff until you find your favourite things!

What I would probably recommend though, is to get a universal harness - which is a strap-on harness that is designed to fit really comfortably and isn’t flimsy, allowing you to use different flat-based dongs in it. This is ideal because you don’t necessarily want to be stuck using the same size or shape of dildo all the time. 

The best thing about all of these toys come in vibrating form too, so regardless of what you choose you’re both bound to have a really amazing time! Use plenty of lube because synthetic materials can be drying, and most importantly relax and enjoy yourselves!

xx -S

This article first appeared in Issue 12, 2016.
Posted 12:16pm Sunday 22nd May 2016 by Sexcellent.