I signed a lease about a week ago for a flat on Leith St with a bunch of mates and now we have received an invitation to an initiation, because it turns out one of our friends knows someone living there this year and gave them our names. I am very nervous about what we might have to do, because of some of the stories going around my college at the moment. Also, I know one of the others in my flat group gets anxiety attacks, but doesn’t want anyone else to know or ruin it for the rest of us. What can I do?
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In the relatively short length of time since initiations started here at Otago (less than 10 years), there has become a sense of obligation amongst certain flat groups to hold initiations, and that there is also a sense of obligation to attend these if you are invited. However, this obligation is made up and has no reality given that renting a house is an arrangement between the tenants and landlord, which has absolutely nothing to do with previous or exiting tenants. If you still feel obliged due to some sense of loyalty to a made up ‘ritual’, because you don’t want to look bad in front of other students, please remember you can walk away at any point, and refuse to do anything asked of you, even if you said yes a mere two minutes ago. Some initiations are simply social affairs where you sit around and have a beverage, rather than having to perform humiliating tasks for the voyeuristic pleasure of your peers, and I hope if you do choose to attend it is one of these. If it isn’t, then get your anxious friend and leave immediately; you will still be renting the flat next year regardless. If you are bullied into staying and humiliated with outrageous tasks, you will be entitled to press charges. Do not put your life at risk by excessive drinking. People die from doing that. Stay alive, stay sane, stay safe.
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